The Challenge: What Didn’t Help
One thing that has kept me stuck in the past is thinking that I should be in a different place than I was. I wanted to be further along, more successful, and more accomplished. Compounding the issue, I would sometimes compare myself to other people.
This thought process has never been helpful for me. It led me to beating myself up, and sometimes I became jealous of the people I compared myself to. I have since learned that these thoughts and emotions created feelings of unworthiness on a subconscious level.
On a conscious level, I didn’t associate these things with unworthiness. I experienced feelings of frustration and annoyance. I didn’t think about it much beyond that.
Solutions: What Did Help
Forgiveness
Forgiving myself for being exactly where I was (as opposed to where I thought I should be) was crucial for my healing process – and for getting unstuck.
No More Comparing
I stopped comparing myself to others. When I noticed I was comparing myself to someone else, I stopped for a moment. I took a deep breath. I let the thought go.
When I got better at this process, I found I could allow myself to be happy for the other person.
When I got even better at the process, I realized that if someone had something I desired, it meant that what I desired was possible for me, too.
Focus on Creating
I allowed myself to focus on what I wanted to create for myself. Getting clear on what I wanted helped me get unstuck, too. One question I asked myself was: Do I want this thing, or do I feel like I should want this thing? Asking questions like these has been very helpful for me.
On My New Program, Becoming Unstuck
Yesterday I opened registration for people to join my new program, Becoming Unstuck. It’s a group coaching and healing program where I will compassionately support participants to take consistent action on a 3-month project of their choice.
If you would like to ask me questions about it, I’d love to have a conversation with you. Please email me at michelle@soulfullintegration.com to set up a chat. You can also learn more at www.soulfullintegration.com/becoming-unstuck
